What should you say to a friend who has lost a family member? You’ll want to do or say something to help and comfort your grieving friend. But what you don’t want to do is act in a way that hurts rather than helps. So whether you see them before or after the direct cremation in Mustang, OK, here are 3 things you should never say to your grieving friend.
1. “I Know What You’re Going Through”
It’s understandable why you might want to say something like that. Most times people say something like that to show empathy or compassion. The problem is that such a statement can easily be misinterpreted. First of all, no one really knows what another feels. It’s possible to empathize because of similar experiences, but you only know how you feel. You don’t, and never will, know how your grieving friend feels. And your friend doesn’t know how you feel. It’s better to let them know you’re sorry for their loss and to let them know you’re there for them.
2. “At Least They Lived a Long Life”
This is the sort of statement that is often made with the intention of offering comfort. The problem, however, is that such a statement can cause hurt. Remember that your grieving friend, while in the early stages of mourning, won’t necessarily take kindly to your saying something that trivializes, even if unintentionally, what they are feeling. There might come a time when your friend will be able to be philosophical about their loss, but let them come to that realization on their own. Rather than telling them that their loved one lived a long life, how about telling your grieving friend a story about some experience you had with the deceased.
3. “Time Heals All Wounds”
While this is an often-repeated saying, it’s not actually true. It’s not time itself that heals wounds – it’s what you do with that time that does the healing. Besides the fact that the statement itself is untrue, it can also come across as insensitive, and that’s something you’ll want to avoid.
If you take heed to these suggestions, you’ll be able to steer clear of making any insensitive statements to your grieving friend.
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